November 5th, 2010


A question of form

We have an unattached four car garage that's really a three car because one bay doesn't have an outside door. The garage is packed full, old things, wood-working things, stored things, yard and garden things, and things we'll get around to one day, like restoring the 120 year-old-plus eight-feet-long drugstore display case that we got from Kathy's grandmother.

We reliably park one car, the Prius, inside. Ever since we had Kathy's 1990 Grand Marquis Mercury re-painted, it has been parked inside too. That car is Kathy's kid bus for her tutoring sessions.

Lately, I've been cleaning in the garage and getting rid of things. The other day I took a car load of old electronics to Goodwill: old computers, printers, televisions and such. I've unloaded a workbench that's been covered with junk for at least a decade. I know that because in the bottom layer I found the pieces of the garage door opener that I bought Kathy for her 50th birthday.

Over the past several days, I installed the opener on the bay where the Mercury is parked.

So here's my question: would it be bad form to give Kathy the installed garage opener as a 60th birthday present?

Kathy's birthday

Actually, I've been trying to arrange Kathy's birthday celebration for several months now. Decade birthdays are special.

I did a surprise party a couple of decades ago, won't repeat that mistake. Kathy grew up in this area and with her volunteer work, knows a lot of people. I thought it would be nice to rent a place and have a reception. She nixed that immediately. She was lukewarm about family dinners; I thought two were needed: one, her family and one in the Oklahoma City area, with my family and our son and his girlfriend. We'd do restaurants, so Kathy wouldn't have to cook. After thinking about it, she nixed those. For parity, she'd have to invite a couple of sister-in-laws, her side, that barely speak to her. Neither of us have a clue why.

Finally, she decided to invite some close friends, three couples, and cook Mexican Food with my help. We're cooking pork and chicken tacos with several new recipes from Rick Bayliss and Mexico-One Plate at a Time. It's tonight. I've been chopping and shredding and drying dishes most of the day, it seems. We will still do OKC, but that will be later or maybe this weekend.

I have her present, bought it weeks ago. And yes, I suggested, and she helped me choose. I'm not stupid.